in that families in recovery class i went to last month, i learned that when the addict relapses the family automatically goes into a relapse also. unintentionally reverting their thoughts and actions to just how it was before recovery started. i found this surprising. i found it almost absurd. well, it's true.
here's what we're going through:
my mr. is doing really well in his recovery. he's staying sober! he's staying busy. he's trying to steer clear of stress and other triggers.
i, on the other hand, am relapsing. i have found myself stressing so much about him relapsing that i have taken on a relapse type personality. i'm grumpy. no, i'm angry! i yell. i bite heads off. all for no apparent reason! today it clicked. if our relationship doesn't feel steady-ready (to me), then i start stressing about relapse. i haven't given up the control issue. i'm still rooted in the past. i need to work on those 12 steps!
here's what we're going through:
my mr. is doing really well in his recovery. he's staying sober! he's staying busy. he's trying to steer clear of stress and other triggers.
i, on the other hand, am relapsing. i have found myself stressing so much about him relapsing that i have taken on a relapse type personality. i'm grumpy. no, i'm angry! i yell. i bite heads off. all for no apparent reason! today it clicked. if our relationship doesn't feel steady-ready (to me), then i start stressing about relapse. i haven't given up the control issue. i'm still rooted in the past. i need to work on those 12 steps!
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