drug court

so, this is what i thought drug court was going to be like:

• lots of structure.
• lots of rules.
• lots of classes, meetings, sessions, etc.
• lots of punishments.
• lots of drug addicts.
• lots of failures.

this is what it's been like for us so far:

• lots of structure.
• lots of rules, but not much enforcement.
• lots of classes and meetings.
• lots of silly punishments.
• lots of drug addicts.  lots of drunks.
• lots of inconsistencies.

first off, mr. was sanctioned (their word for punished) because when the parole officers visited our home the first time we had some [cooking] wine in the fridge. 
  he was given 5 or 6 hours of community service and had to write an essay on "why my environment is my responsibility"
secondly, mr. was sanctioned because the judge didn't like his essay. 
  he had to re-write it three more times.  come to find out that she wanted a letter, not an essay.
third, mr. was sanctioned for missing a class and being late for another.  he was also sanctioned for talking with some other participants about the essay situation.
  i can't remember the total sanction (i think some more community service), but he was also given another essay.
fourth, mr. relapsed with meth.
  he was sanctioned with 3 hours of community service and another essay on "why it's important not to hang out with old friends"
fourth, mr. was sanctioned today for rescheduling an appointment with his counselor and then not having his homework completed (or with him.  same thing) and missing some meetings.
  he was given four hours of community service.

i get kinda frustrated with the silly punishments and the inconsistencies.  the participants get rewarded for good behavior and honesty.  my mr. was sick a few weeks ago and missed some meetings because of it.  he was going to get a goodbar (the reward) but instead admitted to missing the meetings.  the judge was pleased with his honesty and withheld the goodbar, but gave mercy on the punishment because of his honesty.  today he received the sanction for those missed meetings. 

i'm a slight control freak.  it's hard for me to hold in my feelings.  it's hard for me to not get involved more.  it's also so wonderful to see my husband become sober and become a different/better man.  i need to keep that in the forefront of my mind and let everything else just fly over my head.